Growth is uncomfortable; it is far easier to remain stuck in old patterns. Therefore, you may find yourselves engaged in a kind of energetic tug of war. You may even leave each other's lives for a time. But that natural bond, made up of the energy and chemistry you share with a soul mate, is hard to deny.
Meeting your soul mate is the gift that enables you to heal those aspects of your being you have been longing to heal.
This process has been set in motion only because you agreed to meet in this life, to experience the healed, validated, and wonderful being that you are. In order to do this, you must heal that part within which no longer serves your evolutionary growth.
Like you, your soul mate has his own issues, which you pull out from within him. Every time he tries to run away from facing his responsibility to self, to work through and heal his issues, you pop up again.
So you are each faced with a choice. Will you grow or stagnate?
Now, some refuse to grow. They refuse to resolve each of their patterns or break free of their "stories", which are the true sources of their personal pain. As a result, those soul mates are lost to each other for this life. This is a sad choice for both of them.
If one of the soul mates chooses to grow and the other does not, they will part. Spiritual, universal law is such that one soul mate wouldn't evolve but then remain with the other if the other chooses not to do so. That is the reason many soul mates do not share their lives together. But they never forget each other.
Did you ever look within and actually feel afraid of your own individual power? Did you ever sense that there is something you came into this life to do, something so beyond the ordinary expressions of individuality of the masses that you turned away from yourself?
And when you met your soul mate, did you consider he was afraid of his own power, his own potential - and needed unconditional acceptance and support?
When you meet a soul mate, you recognize a quality, gifts, and potentials that the vast majority cannot see.
Your soul mate feels your energy. You communicate on a spiritual level that is difficult to describe; you have an innate, intuitive, psychic connection.
You "know" the other, but your knowing is much more than an understanding; as rational as you try to make it all, you cannot come up with any logical explanation.
You realize - although you may try to look away, afraid of the path you have chosen to take - that you are more than your own personal challenges and growth efforts; you are your essence, here at this precise time and place because needed in some way.
Your first purpose again is to grow and heal individually. Only then will your larger purpose will be made real. Your path shall be very clear.
You may run from your soul mate, from the knowledge of your potential and inherent gifts. They will always exist within your heart, your mind, and your conscience; and the day will come when you will know who you are.