I went with what came to me - led by John Edward.
"You don't validate yourself nearly enough. Give yourself credit for all you've accomplished". They are doing it for you from the other side. At that moment, I thought of someone I haven't thought about in years. This man was my second foster-father - for all of 10 weeks before he passed from lung cancer (I did say I was quitting right?).
It was a warm kind of comfortable feeling.