"Much unhappiness has come into this world because of things left unsaid." - Fyodor Dostoevsky
Why is it that people just can't speak the naked truth?
You meet a man, you have a wonderful time on a date. He tells you that he wants to see you again in 2 days time. You're on cloud nine because this one really seems to fit and you had so much fun with him.
And then he doesn't call. You're driving yourself crazy wondering whether you should call. Will he think you're pushy or psycho? Why hasn't he called?
You e-mail him - he says he has made other plans. You're left wondering what went wrong. And why can't he just say the words, "I don't want to see you again."
It would be so much easier for sanity's sake.
This situation is not one I've experienced recently, but in the distant past. I'm not trying to make it seem like men are the only ones who play this game. And I'm sure they figure it's not a game and it's for the best.
I will admit to not wanting to hurt a guy's feelings by blowing him off. That was until I had this done to me. Is it really that difficult for a man to tell a woman, "I just don't think we're right for each other."?
I've been told that men are afraid that a woman will get histrionic if they tell the truth. That women can't handle the truth. I'm sure there are women out there that will react in that way, as there are men as well (I've been there). It sucks.
But the alternative is worse. Single women have a hard enough time keeping healthy self-esteem. When they are blown-off without an explanation, it eats away at that. Negative thoughts starts filling their minds like, "I wouldn't want me either."
I can't stand to see my girlfriends go through this. It serves no positive purpose.
Why can't men just treat us with the respect that we deserve. When will they realize that we need to hear it? They may not - but women and men think differently and there's no denying it.
When this happens, we're left thinking that these men are wimps with no balls who are afraid to tell the truth.
I've been told, "you're too fat, you're too old, your kids are too young, you're too short, you too smart.." - the list goes on and on.
I would rather hear this then be left wondering what went wrong. I simply say, "next in line?"